When I get questions about how my life is right now, I always assume the person asking me is interested in knowing what it is like being single. After all, almost everyone I know knows that I've always been identified with a significant other because, as proven by my posts from years ago up to mid-2010, I'm always involving myself heavily with significant others. Anyway, it's funny that when I grew fond of answering the "how are you?" questions over the course of 2011 because aside from the fact that the person wants to know the latest on the love front, somebody actually cares about my well-being.
Anyway, I was actually relieved and glad to answer this question last night, because I could answer truthfully that I am happy. I realized that things are going well not only because they are actually going well, it's also with how I view and immerse and react and absorb all the things that are happening in and around me. I guess it goes with the decision to grow wiser rather than older.
The way I look at it right now, it's okay to need and want certain people and things and situations, but we also have to be aware of how capable we really are in accepting and embracing all our wants and needs. Being human means to live with the primal wanting but being able to temper it with regard to you and other people's well-being as well.
So as much as this blog's banner screams LOVE, the owner of this blog (me) is happily in love with the world right now. There are a lot of things to get done, and growing takes time and experience, and I'd really like to stay on here and make a mark for myself to as many people and things as I can. I also want to be able to share and partake of all of the love that is all around us, if we just choose to accept it. Romantic love, friendly love, parental love, familial love - whatever way you view it, every single thing is borne out of love. Tempering our love along with the primal wanting is actually what we should promote.
Romantically, I'm still thinking about what value I will be able to add to the next person I will love. That's more important right now. Having dreams and having a job to get to fulfill those dreams are just facts of my life right now. I want to make myself valuable to the next person in order to grow and expand together with respect and trust and love for each other. It reads so perfect but it takes a lot of work. It takes being human, it takes being wise enough to understand and accept that "forever" is just a concept, that the work involved is in everyday - in waking up and treating each other as humans who are capable to think and function and feel for their own.
Auntie Janey puts it best in J. Zafra's blog. And to serve as a reminder to each one of us:
"We are so preoccupied with what we want in a partner but we rarely give thought to what we can offer in return. We often ask for something wonderful but have we made ourselves worthy of the things we ask for? You cannot pour new wine into old skin.
Time and again I have said that we should work on ourselves. We should make ourselves valuable. We should ready ourselves to receive what is due us." - Auntie Janey
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